What does the bible say?
Being a mother is a very important role that the Lord chooses to give to many women. A Christian mother is told to love her children, in part so that she does not bring reproach on the Lord and on the Savior whose name she bears.
Titus 2:4-5
Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.
God’s Word commanded Christian mothers to:
1. Become
AVAILABLE - morning, noon, and night
Deuteronomy 6:6-7 - These commandments that I give you today are to be upon
your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.
Mom's are you available morning, noon and night? Or only at night, or in the morning? Deuteronomy 6:6-7 is clear ... when you lie down and when you get up. Nakakalungkot isipin na madami sa atin ang pwedeng sabihing guilty sa aspetong eto...dahil marami na sa ating mga mothers and working - hindi na ito nabibigyang pansin. Na dapat lamang po bilang mga ina ay mabigyang pansin. May nakilala po akong isang nanay dati bumagsak ang anak nya sa kinder ( lang naman ) kailangang mag summer...ang sabi nya kaya ko nga pinapasok sa school para yung teacher na ang bahala eh. Kaya bahala na sya dun binabayadan ko school nila ng mahal para gawin na nila ang trabaho nila. Mali po ito kapatid. Hindi po porke pumapasok na school ang ating mga anak ay dun na natatapos ang responsibilidad natin sa kanila. Nararapat lamang na makipagtulungan tayo sa kanilang mga teacher...ito naman ay para sa kinabukasan ng sarili nating mga anak. Meron naman po dyan - ( batu2 sa langit tamaan wag magalit ) porke mga may katulong na sa bahay eh akala mo hindi na makabasag pinggan parang laging pagod sa trabaho. Nasan na yung sinasabi natin na nakakawala ng pagod yung makita mo lang ang anak mo.Mga misis hindi porke may inday na sa bahay eh magbubuhay donya tayo. Alalahanin na tayo ang mga ina ng mga batang inaalagaan nila inday. Tapos may gana pa tayong mag selos kung halata na na mas mahal o mas malapit ang mga bata sa mga yaya nila kesa sa ating sariling mga nanay.Kung pagod tayo sa tingin mo hindi din ba pagod sila inday sa bahay. Imagine, tinatrabaho nila ang hindi mo ginagawa sa bahay PLUS ang maging ina-inahan sa mga anak natin..makipagkwentuhan sa mga bata, makinig sa mga pagbibida ng mga bata,patulugin ang mga bata, pakainin ang mga bata, makipag laro sa mga bata,turuan ang mga bata, paliguan ang mga bata... lahat na halos plus isipin pa nila kung anong lulutuin, maglilinis pa ng bahay, pupulutin ang mga pinaghubaran ng di lang mga bata pati na rin ng mga magulang ng mga bata...maglaba, mag plantsa....sino din ba ang mas maagang gigising sa atin para asikasuhin ang pagpasok ng mga anak natin at para na rin sa atin.... Dapat lagi tayong maging available para sa maga anak natin kung di natin kakayanin yung noon time mano ngang tawagan mo ang mga anak mo...kumustahin sila makipag kwentuhan ka muna saglit sa kanila sa phone tutal may oras ka naman sa work mo mag facebook o gumawa ng blogs eh di bakit hindi mo iukol na lang yung oras na yun para sa anak mo.Sa umaga bago umalis ng bahay kung may pasok tayo o ang ating mga anak hindi ba natin kayang diskartihin na magkaron ng oras sa anak natin hindi yung naka asa lang tayo kay inday.Baka may magreact sabihin ang laki2 ng binabayaran ko kay inday noh dapat nya lang gawin yun. Gawin nya ang ilang gawain OO tama lang pero ang sakupin ang oras ng pagiging isang magulang mo eh hindi po noh. Iba pa din yung hands on ka sa mga anak mo.
Hindi mahirap gawin to, kung gusto mo, magagawa mo. Kung ayaw mo - eh ganon na nga lang "inday ikaw na bahala sa mga bata, love you kids. "
2. Become
INVOLVED – interacting, discussing, thinking and processing life together
Ephesians 6:4
Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.
Involved ba kayo sa buhay ng mga anak nyo o darating na lang tayo sa puntong sa mga maling mga kaibigan na lamang nakapag discuss ng problema ang mga anak natin. Nalalapitan ba tayo ng ating maga anak para sumanguni, para dalawa kayong mag isip etc....O mas involved pa tayo sa mga kasamahan natin sa church o kasamahan sa trabaho? O baka naman po sa awayang pampamilya tayo naiinvolve sa maga bata. Sigawan dito sigawan doon batuhan dito batuhan doon hagisan dito hagisan doon......kapatid mag isip2 tayo.
3. To
TEACH - the Scriptures and a biblical worldview
Psalm 78:5-6
He decreed statutes for Jacob and established the law in Israel, which he commanded our forefathers to teach their children, so the next generation would know them,even the children yet to be born, and they in turn would tell their children.
Deuteronomy 4:10
Remember the day you stood before the LORD your God at Horeb, when he said to me, “Assemble the people before me to hear my words so that they may learn to revere me as long as they live in the land and may teach them to their children.”
Nakakapagturo tayo ng bible study, zen... very good ginagamit ka na ng Panginoon sa Kanyang ministeryo... eh sa mga anak mo nakakapagbasa ba kayo together ng bibliya. Nakakapag discuss ba kayo ng stories sa bible o noong unang panganak lang si Junior kase medyo excited pa as a mother. May mga bagay na dapat sa ating mga magulang manggaling ang katuruan...base sa bible.
4. To
TRAIN – helping a child to develop skills and discover his/her strengths and spiritual gifts
Proverbs 22:6
Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.
Romans 12:3-8
For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the measure of faith God has given you. Just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have the same function, so in Christ we who are many form one body, and each member belongs to all the others. We have different gifts, according to the grace given us. If a man’s gift is prophesying, let him use it in proportion to his faith. If it is serving, let him serve; if it is teaching, let him teach; if it is encouraging, let him encourage; if it is contributing to the needs of others, let him give generously; if it is leadership, let him govern diligently; if it is showing mercy, let him do it cheerfully.
Natural lang na may mga pangarap tayo para sa mga anak natin. Pero hindi natin pwedeng ipilit yun sa mga anak natin. Sinabi na nga na gustong kumuha ng Management ipipilit pa din kumuha ang Engineering. Kase daw lahat sila mga Engineer. Ano ba yun? Hereditary ba dapat yun? Meron naman kitang kita na yung skills sa pag kanta ipilit ba namang maging gitarista kaya tuloy minsan napapapikit ang isa sa mga mata natin kase madalas sintunado yung pagtugtog. Tulungan na natin madevelop kung ano yung talent na ibinigay sa kanila ng Panginoon hindi yung idevelop yung talent na gusto mo sana ay nasa iyo.
5. To
DISCIPLINE - teaching the fear of the Lord, drawing the line consistently, lovingly, firmly
Hebrews 12:5-11
And you have forgotten that word of encouragement that addresses you as sons:
“My son, do not make light of the Lord’s discipline, and do not lose heart when he rebukes you, because the Lord disciplines those he loves, and he punishes everyone he accepts as a son.” Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is not disciplined by his father? If you are not disciplined (and everyone undergoes discipline), then you are illegitimate children and not true sons. Moreover, we have all had human fathers who disciplined us and we respected them for it. How much more should we submit to the Father of our spirits and live! Our fathers disciplined us for a little while as they thought best; but God disciplines us for our good, that we may share in his holiness. No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.
Proverbs 13:24
He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.
Careful to discipline.. baka naman halos bugbog sarado na mga anak natin sa pag disiplina.... Maliwanag naman po nasa biblya ang mga yan. Madami pang ibang verses eto na lang nilagay ko. Drawing the line consistenly o baka naman pabago bago tayo may order tayo ngayon bukas iba naman ang order para kau kuya sa bunso iba naman ang order... lovingly and firmly baka naman sa simula lang yan, kalaunan okey na naman. And higit sa lahat dapat sa atin mismo magsimula ang disiplina. Baka naman may tinuturo tayo sa mga anak natin hindi naman nakikita sa atin. O Junior don't smoke because its bad for your health pero sa daddy naman eh chain smoker o dili kaya naman wag kayong sasagot sa mga nakakatanda pero pag dating ng Lola, ganon na lang natin kung pagtaasan ng boses. Kapatid tignan natin ang sarili natin.
6. To
NURTURE – providing an environment of constant verbal support, freedom to fail, acceptance, affection, unconditional love
Ephesians 4:29-32
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
1 Peter 3:8-9
Finally, all of you, live in harmony with one another; be sympathetic, love as brothers, be compassionate and humble. Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing.
Hmmm... o baka naman isa pa tayo sa mga nag didiscourage sa mga anak natin. Yung advertisment ng clusivol, bawal ang magkasakit baka naman sa bahay natin bawal ang magkamali. Kaya naman kahit aksidente lang na makabasag ng baso si nini kulang na lang atakihin sa puso ang anak mong 3 taong gulang pa lang dahil sa takot kase bawal ang magkamali.
7. To
MODEL WITH INTEGRITY – living what you say, being a model from which a child can learn by “catching” the essence of godly living
Deuteronomy 4:9
Only be careful, and watch yourselves closely so that you do not forget the things your eyes have seen or let them slip from your heart as long as you live. Teach them to your children and to their children after them.
Psalm 37:18
The days of the blameless are known to the LORD, and their inheritance will endure forever.
Are you living what you say? Are you a model to your children or inday is the model to your children? I have nothing againts them but the point here is our responsibility as a mother to our children. Not because we have nanny's at home we will leave all responsibilities to them. We have our obligations to our children.
The Bible never states that every woman should be a mother. However, it does say that those whom the Lord blesses to be mothers should take the
responsibility seriously. Mothers have a unique and crucial role in the lives of their children. Motherhood is not a chore or unpleasant task. Just as a mother bears a child during pregnancy, and just as a mother feeds and cares for a child during infancy, so mothers also play an ongoing role in the lives of their children, whether they are adolescents, teenagers, young adults, or even adults with children of their own. While the role of motherhood must change and develop, the love, care, nurture, and encouragement a mother gives should never cease.
- Availability
- Involvement
- Teaching
- Training
- Nurture
- Discipline
- Modeling with Integrity
TO BE OR NOT TO BE
THAT IS THE QUESTION
